Loving-kindness towards others and self-compassion. As an initial step in the practice of loving-kindness, we start by focusing on self-compassion because self-compassion is the foundation and launching stage from which we then can reach out to others in kindness. Why because as we learn love for self this in time will flow out naturally as we expand our loving-kindness outwards. We can only learn to love others and truly accept them for their own human shortcomings if we have first learned how to love ourselves. Following is a link to a practice called “Memories of Kindness” which can help us acquaint ourselves with the topic of being kind to others, receiving kindness from others and being kind to ourselves - https://claytonmicallef.com/memories-of-kindness-meditation-practice/